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February 2005

5 questions to ask about your relationships

to help create an incredible life.

1. In which relationships do you feel fully alive?

This is the number one question to ask.What makes these relationships and what about them make you feel fully alive or what keeps you from feeling fully alive when you are in these relationships? We attract people who reflect ourselves.Maybe we are limiting ourselves or maybe we need to make a shift in ourselves to feel fully alive with ourselves and others.If we are limiting ourselves to be able to be around others maybe we need to limit the time we spend in the limiting relationship and seek out other relationships that are fully expressed.

2. How does your "memetic" environment affect your relationships?

Our memetic environment is established when we integrate what we've learned, both positive and negative, from our families, friends, and society into beliefs, thoughts, ideas, concepts, etc.This process can also be referred to as a type of social conditioning. As we were growing up many of us heard "misery loves company".? How many of us now play the "ain't it awful" game with those at work, our families and our friends?? How many people in your relationship environment play "isn't it wonderful".Which game would make you feel fully alive? Changing your thoughts, beliefs, ideas, etc. to benefit yourself and others can lead to living an incredible life.

3. How is your relationship with yourself?

This question is hard for many people to answer.A lot of people (going back to the memetic environment) were taught not to put much emphasis on themselves.The first relationship we need to develop is the relationship with ourselves.? Do you like yourself?You reflect your feelings toward yourself by how you take care of yourself, how you dress, what books you read, what movies you watch, what and how much you eat, etc.You must first like yourself in order for others to like or love you.

4. How does your physical environment affect your relationships?

Clutter in our environment can take away energy from our relationships.Also?pay attention to?how your furniture is arranged.I recently noticed when people walked into my living room, they had obstacles to go around to be seated.There is plenty of seating it was just not easy to get to.The area now has been rearranged to make it more accessible and welcoming to others.Take a look around at your physical space, if you were a visitor would you feel comfortable?Arrange your physical environment so that people will feel comfortable and welcome.

5. In what ways does your financial environment affect your relationships?

Do you operate from a scarcity point of view or do you embrace one of abundance?

Successful people, having an incredible life, associate with others who are able to have a dialogue with them about good money managing techniques, investment strategies as well as how they give back to their community and give to special projects.? Generally those who respect themselves also respect the value and possibilities money brings to them.


These questions help us look at our relationships and begin to learn what is working and what needs change.When we strengthen our environments we use less effort to create and keep an incredible life.Contact me: Jo@theretirementenvironment.com?for a free collaborative session to?create the incredible life you want!


PS.Happy Valentine's Day!

© Jo Caywood 2005

March 2005

Wow, spring is finally here!


 It depends on where you live if it really feels like spring, but even if it doesn’t right now it won’t be long. Here, in Macon, Ga. we are starting our Cherry Blossom Festival.  Each year we hold our breath to see if the cherry blossoms will be late, early or right on time. There are some scouts peeking out to see if the others will soon want to join.  This year the rest will probably start popping out at the end of the week just in time for the finale.

The Cherry Blossom Festival represents many things to each person and to the city as well as the county.  Although the festival was originally started as a way to draw tourists and their dollars it is also a way for people to get back out in nature and enjoy all the new beginnings. It is a way for friends and families to gather to share time together, a way for people to learn about new cultures-especially since people from all over the world travel here and also because the cherry trees were brought to Macon from Japan, it is a way for us to reconnect with all aspects of nature and it is a way to celebrate life.


How are you planning on celebrating life and spring this year?  Here are some questions to think about:


Are there changes you would like to make in your physical space?


Do you share this time of year with friends and family? 


Do you have a network in which you can share resources, strengths, and create new partnerships that will enhance your life and business?


Is this spring a signal to you to start looking at your finances? 


Do you seek a deeper spiritual connection in the spring?


Are your beliefs and values (memes) holding you back or moving you forward?


Do you use enthusiasm, curiosity, commitment, patience, generosity, etc. as attitudes you will use throughout your day?


Is it time to schedule health check ups or restart an exercise program?


How are you taking advantage of the changing seasons?


Now is the time to start reconnecting with the world and life.  The blossoms will only last about 2 weeks but the new beginnings you make now will propel you to a forward moving future. 


Happy Spring!


Contact me Jo@theretirementenvironment.com and share your answers.

(c) Jo Caywood 2005

April 2005

What keeps you from getting what you want?

"If you expect the best you will be the best. Learn to use one of
the most powerful laws in this world; change your mental habits to
belief instead of disbelief. Learn to expect, not to doubt. In so doing,
you bring everything into the realm of possibility."
-Dr. Norman Vincent Peale

Is there something you really want to do or something you really want to
have in your life? What keeps you from doing it or having it? Are you afraid
others will disapprove? Does some part of you fear being successful? Do people
say that you are too old? Did you learn from others you are inadequate? Do
you feel insecure?

Many times we learn limiting thoughts from others mainly because someone
taught them the same thing. When we believe our limiting thoughts, we develop fears
and then our fears become a self fulfilling prophecy. If we learn to take action and face
our fears we find that there is abundance in the world as well as within ourselves. Each time
we try something we learn from it even if it doesn't produce the results we were seeking.
Sometimes the results are better than we expected. Sometimes we find we need to change our
course. By taking action even when we are afraid it keeps us moving forward.

-So many of our dreams
at first seem impossible,
and then, when we summon the will,
they soon become inevitable.-
-Christopher Reeve-

Email Jo at: jo@theretirementenvironment.com
And make sure to visit the website: www.theretirementenvironment,com

(C) Jo Caywood-2005

May 2005

5 steps in devloping a vision.

"Since you are like no other being ever created since the beginning of time you are incomparable." Brenda Ueland

We are in many ways like snowflakes, we are all different. Different shapes, sizes, colors, ages, wants, needs, etc. As children we develop individual personalites, then as we grow into our teen years we strive to be more like the people that surround us. As adults we move back and forth from being individual to being like others. In midlife many of us start seeking our true selves.To start this process we first need a vision. A vision is what you see, feel or hear yourself doing in the future. It gives you direction but also encompasses your values, wishes and dreams.

Start this week to develop your own vision. If developing a vision for the rest of your life is overwhelming, start small and develop a vision for the rest of the year.
1. Get a piece of paper, a notebook,a journal, a voice recorder, or something you can use to brainstorm ideas.
2. List,record or draw as many ideas as you can. List,record or draw what you see, feel or hear yourself doing,who is with you, where are you living, how are you living, are you working, what are your recreational activities, how is your health, and anything else you want in your vision. To think of the ideas you may want to meditate, set intentions, keep a dream journal, regular journal or any other technique with which you feel comfortable.
3. Now look at your list, drawings or listen to your recording. Have you left out anything? Is there anything you want to delete?
4. Now develop a story (or drawing) integrating all the ideas you have and that you want to keep as a part of your life.
5. Go over this vision from time to time and see if it changes.

Email Jo at: jo@theretirementenvironment.com
And make sure to visit the website: www.theretirementenvironment.com

(C) Jo Caywood-2005

June 2005

Visualization (Continued)

This month we continue the discussion on visualization and integrating it into our everyday lives.Only you have the ability to mainfest what comes into your life.Throughout your life paople have told you what to do and how to do it. Now that you are older you are in the driver's seat.

Part of what holds us back is what we learned from others and helped us get through our childhood and to the point we are at now in our lives. Now, though, we have an inner knowing that we want more out of life. What we learned form others is a part of our conditioning of how to be safe and get by in the world. Now it is time to let go of the ideas, beliefs, and images that say we "can't or shouldn't" do what we want to do in life.(There is still one caution though, that what you want will come easier if it does not cause intentional harm to others.)

Action Steps: Continue to work on your visualizations.

Set Goals in you visualizations:

  • Develop the ministeps needed to accomplish what you want.
  • Why do you want this in your life?
  • Why is it a must?

Your day has the same 24 hours in it that is available to everyone else on this planet. Divide it into portions. Use the following formula as a general guide but customize it to fit your life and needs. You will automaticially reserve 8 hours for sleeping so that leaves 16 hours for you to divide using the formula.

  • 10 percent of the day is spent on planning for the future.
  • 10 percent of the day is spent on educating yourself or gathering information on information that is important to your goals.
  • 50 percent of the day is for necessities.
  • 15 percent of the day is spent on personal things that affect you: ie. a massage, a long bath, talking to friends, etc.
  • 15 percent of the day is discretionary and flexible.

Create a visualization of each day.

  • Journal each day about how your time is divided and how it is spent.
  • Journal about the feelings you have around how you spent your time.
  • Adjust your schedule accordingly.
  • practice this for 6 weeks or longer.
  • At the end of the 6 weeks look at how things are different.
  • Keep doing this as a way of life and look at the visualization of your day to make adjustments when necessary.

Please email me with the results of the exercise or with any questions. I'm interested in how this worked for you.

Wishing you the best of your intentions.



Email: jo@theretirementenvironment.com  Make sure to visit www.theretirementenvironment.com and check out the June classes.

(c) Jo Caywood 2005


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